I’m Too Lazy to Date Right Now

Are you feeling lazy too? Welcome to the club.

Emily Ann Mark
3 min readSep 29, 2022


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It occurred to me recently that the real reason why I don’t want to date right now…

I’m lazy.

I don’t want to get to know anyone. I don’t feel like putting myself out there. I’m finally not bothered by someone or trying to get over a heartbreak. I’m just too lazy to date right now.

Are you feeling lazy too?

But if living our lives, pursuing our hobbies, healing, and growing means love takes the back burner; does that mean we don’t want to date?

No. We’re just sitting this season out. We’re taking a break. And we’ll be back.

I don’t feel like swiping on an app. I removed myself from online dating for over a year. I returned this summer to only last two days before I quit. For the one-hundredth time.

I’m just too lazy.

I don’t feel like taking myself out with the possibility to meet someone at a bar, club, music event, or even a dog park. I currently don’t own a dog, so that wouldn’t work anyway.

I’m just too lazy.

I don’t feel like being matched up by a friend or family member who may have found someone compatible with me. I’ve noticed though my mom has finally stopped asking when I’m going to meet someone.

I’m just too lazy. And my mom knows I’m being lazy too.

For the first time, in a long time, I’m ok with not being taken. It’s a feeling of bliss. Sometimes interrupted by sadness and what the hell am I doing with my life.

But mostly, it’s bliss.

Here’s the thing about taking a break from dating — there is nothing wrong with pursuing yourself first for the time being. You can start appreciating the things about you that make you, you.

I know it sounds cliche — you can heal, you can grow, you can figure out what you want.

But let’s take away the stigma behind dating or not dating. Let’s just be human beings living our lives. We’re not doomed for loneliness. We’re not unloveable. We certainly don’t need the pressure.



Emily Ann Mark

Breakups. Relationships. Mindset. Personal growth. Failures. Life can be messy. Let’s talk about it.