If They Want to Leave, You Have to Let Them Go.

Give yourself the gift of healing, respect, and integrity.

Emily Ann Mark
2 min readFeb 21, 2022


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Love cannot be begged for or bargained. Love is freely given with its highest pure intentions. The moment we find ourselves gripped with the fear of losing someone, that’s when we know we already lost them.

The end of a relationship can be brutally painful. I wish breakups didn’t exist. How magical and lovely would this world be if those who fell in love stayed. But also how toxic because sometimes two people are not meant to be together forever.

As hard as it is to hear the truth, the truth indeed will set you free.

If someone wants to leave, you have to let them go.

Don’t beg and don’t plead. There’s nothing you can do to change their mind nor should you even try. Give yourself the integrity and respect you deserve. Be brave enough to break your own heart; understand they can’t stay.

If they don’t want to be with you, that’s it.
Let them go.

It’s complicated and it’s not easy. That I do know.
Two people that entered the relationship are not the same when they leave. We grow and evolve. We’re here to experience and learn. Sometimes the lessons we learn are painful. But they forever shape and mold us for the better.

If someone wants to leave, don’t hold them back. Remember your worth and understand the love you seek will be with you, exactly as you are.

If they wanted you, they would be with you.
By their own free will and choice. There’s no way around it. Trying to convince someone to see what you see is like the blind leading the blind.

Free yourself by accepting the fact that they can’t stay.

Give yourself the gift of healing. Holding space for someone who does not want to be there only robs you of what is for you. You deserve love as much as anyone else. Don’t waste or save your time with someone that does not see what you see.

You have to let them go.

It hurts.
You love them.
You can’t imagine life without them.

But I promise, once it’s said and done- you’ll be better off.

And then one day, you’ll look back and wonder why you held on for so long.



Emily Ann Mark

Breakups. Relationships. Mindset. Personal growth. Failures. Life can be messy. Let’s talk about it.